Falling into Place

“When I can no longer rise to the occasion, I find I can fall into place.” Sarah-Jane Menato

After an extended five year cycle of personal loss and bereavement that included the death of my Mother and a diagnosis of an autoimmune condition, I came to a point where I could no longer rise to the occasion. Unexpectedly, I found I fell into place. As inner and outer structures of both cultural and personal identity collapse, there is potential, I’ve found, in the dust and ruins of what has been, to experience “falling into place”. 

Bowl and Mountain by Don Hazeltine

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“Seeing and Singing in The Dark”

Learning that the dark is not simply an absence of light, or a space of deprivation, is on-going. As the dark reveals Her extraordinary dimensions of depth, fertility and generosity, understanding dawns that everything depends on the quality, treasured-ness and restored capacity to care for and tend the dark.

Painting by Barbara Cecil

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Away With The Canaries ~A high altitude perspective on lockdown, herd immunity and the clinically vulnerable~

Canaries belong to what’s known as a Sentinel species. They’re used to detect risks to humans. Other Sentinel species include honey bees, bats, and swallows who warn of pesticide contamination. Aquatic animals warn of water pollution. Rabbits were used to check for leaks at Sarin nerve gas production plants.  

A few months before COVID, and well before the first “lockdown”, the familiar shapes of my daily life distorted and blurred as I adapted to an auto-immune diagnosis. With no fix or cure for my condition, there was no “going back to normal” for me.

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Nurturing the Language of “Work”

In recent conversations I notice a theme: The challenge of finding language to re-write LinkedIn profiles, or redesign websites and CVs, after cycles of profound change. 

Mainstream professional vocabulary can strangle rather than reveal depth, authority and graceful power. It can trivialise transitions that take place when we root in new ground and begin to work from it in ourselves.  

Shaping words to weave an authentic relevant truth from journeys through messy, painful landscapes, through wastelands of grief and rage is an art. Equally so, finding vocabulary at the sweetly sharp edges of joy. Often poetry serves best but it’s tough to effectively use poetry in a LinkedIn profile or CV.

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Roiling Soil and Cyclical Re-Turn ~ Honouring lives given and taken

As light lengthens days in the north and shortens them in the south, re-adjustments are underway, again. Everyone I know has made unexpected adaptations in the past months, and one for me has been “online” as an on-going and significant aspect of my life.

Zoom has profoundly surprised me. At some point last year, I began to envisage the frame of my screen as a loom; collective magic began to emerge from Zoom frames. Holding the unravelling individual threads of our lives, we wove something new; stretching out to each other across the miles we interlaced the weft through the warp. Back and forth between us, our reframed voices and faces became familiar in new ways, sweet rituals emerged, unique rhythms flowed and unexpected patterns materialised. I have come to cherish this new found online alchemy.

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Growing Downwards

“There is a reciprocal rhythm and it’s not in 4-4 for it
doesn’t follow straight lines. It’s a wild rhythm where
I help you and you help her and she gets to stop and he
gives all he has for love.
There is a reciprocal rhythm and it’s not in 4-4.”
~ An excerpt from “Reciprocal Rhythm”, a poem by Toni Spencer ~

There was a reciprocal rhythm to a day I spent on July 11th with a group of generous women. We’ve met before and I stepped readily into our increasingly graceful being together, leaving any 4-4 rhythms at the door.

Into the alchemy at the centre of our circle I heard myself say: “I’m interested in growing downward”. I’ve since been feeling my way into what I meant.

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Human Wayfinding, Migration and The Otic Capsule

In March, five weeks after my Mum died, I heard Professor Sue Black on Radio 4 talking about her book “All That Remains”. She spoke about death in a forthright way I have developed a thirst for. Currently Professor of Anatomy and Forensic Anthropology at the University of Dundee, Sue Black’s work takes her to far flung places where she confronts hellish scenes that can’t adequately be described. She finds out why and how people have died. She knows unusual and eerily beautiful things about the power and vulnerability of our human bodies, and the subject of death. Continue reading

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Calling “Time” on “Fixing and Fighting” and Shifting to “Wrestling and Mending”

I turned 60 in April. My birthday came a few short weeks after intimately accompanying my Mum on her death-path and bringing the scattered threads of her long life together for her funeral in March.

I’ve crossed a threshold and my sense of personal authority is coming to life in new ways. I am curious about the application of my personal learning in all areas including, in this context, professionally.

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Wonder Woman, Leadership and Power

“………Wonder Woman’s head piece has several functions, one of which makes her invulnerable to “telepathic attacks”… (she) can resist psychic pressure from power being misused against her….. Wonder Woman’s Lasso of Truth, a magical golden lariat compels anyone it encircles to be truthful. And there are deep truths surfacing in these days.” Read on……

Letting go, loss and feeling lost are not commonly associated with leadership or power, but the capacity to let go, let die, and be in the unknown is a powerful and much needed aspect of feminine leadership. Wonder Woman left her home and never returned. She left everything she knew behind and stepped into an unknown “other” world.

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Myths and Lies

In a world increasingly aware of how data and facts can be used and the presence of “fake” news, I want to clarify the use of the word “myth”. A myth is not a lie. When the word “myth” is used interchangeably with the word “lie”, many already constricted roads into our inherent creativity and imagination risk increased congestion. Myths can be several things, but they are not lies. They have the capacity to clear heavily polluting inner traffic and get us out onto the open roads of inspiration and resourcefulness.

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